COURTSHIP AND RUNAWAY MARRIAGE
1861 AGE, 22
MISS FOX'S family must have marked a change in the appearance of young Mr.
George, who at first had dressed well, but whose clothes now, though neat,
showed wear. The grandmother had died after displaying every sign of tender
care and affection for her daughter Elizabeth's children, orphaned as she felt
by her unwise, though most loving interference. Matthew McCloskey, Miss Fox's
uncle, had now become virtually the young girl's guardian, and careful man
that he was, he wrote privately to Philadelphia to learn something of the
young suitor's antecedents, which he found to be satisfactory.
Matthew McCloskey shared his mother's force of character. He was one of those
strong, commanding men seen at greatest advantage in pioneer conditions. In
"Happy Valley," the section of the city in which he lived and owned
considerable real estate, his word was his bond, and his conclusions in
ticklish land-title disputes, which his neighbours brought to him to settle
rather than go to law, had the respect accorded to decisions of court. And
while a just man, he had the generosity of a courageous man, one night during
the campaign of '60 going home in a passion because he had been unable to
prevent a mob of Douglass Democrats stopping a Breckinridge Democrat from
making a public speech; for though a strong Douglass Democrat himself, he
wanted all men to have a fair chance to be heard. Thus no man in his
neighbourhood was better known or more highly respected. His house, a frame
building, like many others at that time, made in Australia and brought to
California in sections, was when erected one of the best in that part of the
Matthew McCloskey took no exception to the character or possible abilities of
young George, but his own nature was too masterful long to brook the same
trait in the young man who came courting his niece. For the time he said
nothing; while all unconscious, or careless, of smiles or frowns from such a
quarter, the young printer was showing in his wooing the strength of his
nature and bent of his mind. He brought Miss Fox books, mostly of verse, and
they had reading tasks together. One work used in this way was Charles A.
Dana's "Household Book of Poetry," a large volume just published containing
an admirable collection from the writings of the great poets of the language.
The lovers read, memorised and discussed.
One day Henry George said he had just heard his rival's love story, and that
he thought the other man ought to have the right to press his suit, and that
he himself ought to withdraw. The lady intimated that the other gentleman
had few friends at court, whereas Mr. George was well represented. The young
printer needed no further word of encouragement, and at all hours, early in
the morning, at midday or late at night – for one hour was as pleasant
to him as another – he came dropping in at the Flintoff's on Twelfth
Street, near Folsom, until unexpectedly the storm broke and Matthew
McCloskey, who came out that night to his brother-in-law's, told Mr. George
that until he could show more evidence of prosperity – for he was now
out of the "Evening Journal," and indeed, of all regular employment –
he should make his visits less frequent. The young fellow replied with
spirit, and the two quick, hot tempered men would have come to blows had not
Miss Fox, who had been the terrified spectator of the quarrel, rushed
between them. Her uncle, forgetting that his brother-in-law and not he was
master there, ordered the young man from the house and forbade him ever
again to enter it.
Much of that night Miss Fox spent praying and next morning, December 3, 1861
– a stormy, rainy morning – when Henry George came out, she said
that she would no longer remain under the roof of either of her uncles, and
had resolved to go to Los Angeles and accept a position as teacher in the
school of the Sisters of Charity.
The young man said: "If you go I'll not see you," to which the girl replied
that since she could not stay with her relatives in San Francisco, she saw
nothing else to do. The young man drew from his pocket a single coin. "Annie,"
said he solemnly, "that is all the money I have in the world. Will you marry
She gravely answered: "If you are willing to undertake the responsibilities of
marriage, I will marry you."
He told her when he came again later in the day that at nightfall he would
send a carriage for her to the door inquiring for "Mrs. Brown" and that she
should be ready at once to leave. All day long she sat in the parlour of
Joseph Flintoff's house waiting for night and the carriage, while Henry
George was off telling some of his friends of the matter, getting credit for
two weeks' board for two persons, borrowing a little money and some better-
appearing clothes than his own, and hiring a carriage. There was some
difficulty about the carriage, for when the driver grasped the fact that he
was about to take part in a runaway marriage, and that he was to get into the
very thick of it by inquiring at the door for "Mrs. Brown," he declined,
saying that he already had "a bullet in one leg" for participating in another
just such affair. But he agreed to hold his conveyance in readiness at a
discreet distance from the residence. Isaac Trump, one of George's Shubrick's
friends, with coat collar turned up and soft felt hat drawn down, went to Mr.
Flintoff's residence and asked for "Mrs. Brown." Miss Fox was ready, and
followed him out, handing him a heavy cloth-covered package, which from its
form and feeling he afterwards said he thought must be boxes of jewels, but
which to his astonishment turned out to be the "Household Book of Poetry,"
and all the other volumes that Henry George had given the young lady, she
preferring to take these to any other of her personal possessions. Presently
Mr. George joined them and they proceeded to the carriage where the lady that
Isaac Trump was engaged to marry was awaiting them. Rev. S.D. Simonds, the
Methodist clergyman whom Henry George had been going to hear the year before,
was to perform the ceremony. But he was out of town at that hour and would not
be back until nine that night. The party, therefore, went to a restaurant to
supper. After the repast they walked to Mr. Simond's little Methodist church
called the Bethel. The night was bright with moonlight, but wet under foot
from the day's storm and when they came to a pool, Henry George lifted his
bride-elect over it – a habit which the young man continued, at night at
least, for many years.
Charles Coddington and Mrs. Simonds, the wife of the clergyman, were waiting
at the church. James George could not get there, but his newly wedded wife,
Sophia George, came and brought his hearty good wishes.
Miss Fox, a Catholic in good standing, would have preferred her own church
for the place of the marriage, but fearing the delay that that seemed to
present, was willing to have Mr. George's Methodist friend, Rev. Mr.
Simonds, perform the ceremony, though soon afterwards in Sacramento she had
Rev. Nathaniel Gallagher of St. Rose's Church give the Catholic sanction.
Broad-minded man that the Rev. Mr. Simonds was, he voluntarily read the
service of the Episcopal Church in which the bridegroom had been bred, and
which, as he said, "more nearly approached the Catholic" than his own short
Methodist service. And in this way Henry George and Annie Fox – the
one twenty-two, the other eighteen – became husband and wife, the ring
being the one used at the wedding of Miss Fox's grandmother.
When the ceremony was over Mr. George wrote out and sent advertisements to all
the newspapers; and the clergyman took down Charles Coddington's name as one
of the witnesses. He then turned to Mr. Trump, who was to be second witness,
but whom he did not know. "I, Trump," the witness responded. "I perceive that
you do," said the clergyman, "but what is your name?" and it was several
minutes before the reverend gentleman could be made to believe that the
witness was not joking, and that "I" stood for "Isaac."
There was no honeymoon trip for this bridal pair; indeed, the young groom
arose at five o'clock next morning to go out and look for work. This he found
as a "sub" type-setter, and worked all day; and in the evening getting another
chance, he worked that night until the small hours next morning. By irregular
"subbing" of this kind he was able to earn enough to pay their board bills.
After a few days, learning of an opening in Sacramento, the Capital of the
State, he went up and got "subbing" work on the "Union," a morning daily, and
earned good wages. He at once sent for his wife and for a time at least felt
some sense of security, though adversity was soon again upon him.
All this while the George family was without knowledge of what had happened,
nor did any but his Sister Jennie even so much as know of the existence of
Miss Fox. Before the crisis came in the love affair, and before he had drawn
out of the "Evening Journal," he had written in confidence to his sister to
tell her of his affection, with holding the intelligence from the others
because he would not have his father and mother think that he would so much as
contemplate the taking on of new responsibilities at a time when they were
down in their fortunes, and when he could do so little to help them – a
time, indeed, when, under the circumstances, he could only with difficulty
support himself. His sister's reply, without date, bears evidence of great
haste, and runs:
"I felt a sudden choking, a sudden loneliness and jealousy, when I first read
your letter. I have got over that now; and first of all, no matter what else I
say, my advice to you is: If you really love Annie, you marry her as soon as
you are able to support her. I have no doubt you are sure of loving her...
though you cannot be too sure.
"I am sorry she is a Catholic, very sorry. Be careful about that. You say you
often talk on religious subjects; let them not be doctrinal points. The ground
is dangerous to you, no matter how well balanced your mind may be. I know that
our family will object to that, Ma especially; but still I do not think she
will withhold her consent on that account. The great objection is that you
should be married away from home. Do not, I beg of you. Come home and bring
her with you. I will love her; so will they all, I know.
"I love her already – at least I feel as if I had found a new friend
somewhere by the name of Annie. I call her Annie to myself; her name is
familiar to me now.... Marry her if you love her, for love is too precious a
thing to be thrown away. 'For beauty is easy enough to win, but one isn't
loved every day.' ...
"In the meantime do not forget me; do not cease to love me as much as ever,
will you? There can be two places in your heart – one for Annie and one
When he wrote in November that he was out of the "Evening Journal" his mother
answered (December 11):
"I see, my son, that you get the blues sometimes as well as other folks, and I
don't wonder. I think you have had a hard time of it, but don't, I beseech
you, ever allow that to prevent you from writing home. Remember, a whole
household is made blue in that case, though they say they are not, to keep up
the mother's spirits. Keep up your spirits, my dear boy. All will yet be well.
I feel persuaded you will yet come out right. You know the darkest hour is
just before day. I have always boasted of your happy, cheerful, encouraging
tone. Never till late have I detected a shadow of gloom. Put your trust in
God, my dear child."
Then, owing to the disturbed condition of the country, mails accumulated, and
there was a three months' silence from California. When the mails resumed, a
bunch of letters arrived together, among them one from the son telling of his
marriage and one from his wife, for both of them wrote just after the wedding.
Perhaps the folks were too happy on hearing from their son once more in those
troublous times and too much astonished at the news that the letters brought,
to think of deprecating his marriage. At any rate, the whole family united in
a warm and earnest welcome to the new daughter and sister, and nearly all of
them wrote messages of love by the next mail. His Sister Kate wrote (March 4):
"My new relationship never struck me so forcibly as it did last night at
family prayers, when father prayed for his beloved son and daughter. Before we
used only to pray for our dear absent one; now it is for our dear absent
The young couple had on their side waited with something like trepidation
through the long months for word of recognition from home, and though neither
spoke of it, both had almost settled down into despair when the bundle of
letters came to hand, telling of the warm taking into the heart, and then the
time slipped merrily along. But his mother and his Sister Jennie pleaded with
them in every letter to come home. To her brother, Jennie wrote with a tender
love (April 20):
"There are a great many more things here to remind us of you than there are
out there to remind you of us.... Here everything is associated with you. We
live the same as we did when you went away; in the same house, doing the same
things over and over again, only each time we do them less light-heartedly,
feeling that we are gradually growing older, that things will not always be
"We had pretty nice times when we were children, didn't we? Yesterday I was
forcibly reminded that every one of us is growing older. You know it was
Easter Saturday. Don't you remember Ma always dyed us two or three eggs
apiece? Well, yesterday she did not dye one. She never thought of it and none
of the children asked for it.
"What nice times we used to have Christmas, too. How sleepless we used to be
all night. You used to be up about 4 o'clock in the morning.
"Hen, in the Spring we used to have such a time planting seed in our garden.
What a handsome garden! Time has not improved it. It is the same little
'snub' it used to be. We thought it was nice though, didn't we? Don't you
remember Tom and Val used to plant things and pull them up about a week after
to see if they were growing?
"Tell Annie about Tom sitting in the air. I tell him that that one act is
enough to immortalise and hand his name down to posterity."
The bond between brother and sister was never closer than now, as shown by his
letter a couple of months later:
Sacramento, June 5, '62
"MY DEAR JENNIE: We are having Summer at last;
and hot enough it certainly is. I feel it more, perhaps, than I would
otherwise from the fact that since leaving Panama I have experienced no
really warm weather, the winds which draw in through the Golden Gate, making
San Francisco almost as cool in summer as in winter. But we are now living
in one of the pleasantest parts of the town – a square from the State
Capitol – and surrounded by trees of all kinds and the largest growth,
and roses in greater profusion than I ever saw before. Aunt Mary would be
delighted with this country, barring the floods.
"A short distance from the house is the slough – formed by the back
water of the American River, which unites with the Sacramento at this point
– a beautiful sheet of water on which we have a boat, and over which we
frequently sail. In a word, we are as pleasantly situated as we could desire,
but Annie will tell you all about how we are fixed. She will write tonight,
being at the present moment 'amusing' herself by nursing a baby, the property
of one of the ladies in the house, and of which I must in justice say that I
have not yet heard it cry. She is a regular woman, and has all the notions and
fancies that seem so strange to a man.
"But while we are so pleasantly situated, 'Old Adversity' walks as close
behind as ever. The Legislature has adjourned, as I told you before, and
though the weather and roads have much improved, the Overland Mail stage has
not yet commenced running. We were under the impression that it had started
from the other side and the first budget of news would be here in a few days,
but on Sunday a telegraphic despatch was received from New York dated May 2
stating that operations would probably be resumed in about fifteen days. This
is disheartening, for to its regular arrivals we are looking for the revival
of our business, which just now is unprecedentedly dull. The proprietors of
the 'Union' state their determination to commence to run two double sheets a
week as soon as the Overland Mail resumes, which will give me all the work I
care to do. But we have been expecting and looking for it so long that it
seems that it never would come. I am not one of those who love work for its
own sake, but feeling what it brings, I love it and am happiest when hard at
it. It is no wonder that wealth is sought by all means, good or bad, for it
expresses almost everything. With it, it seems to me, I should be supremely
happy (perhaps that is the reason I have it not). It is but the want of a few
dollars that keeps us separate, that forces us to struggle on so painfully,
that crushes down all the noblest yearnings of the heart and mind. I do not
complain that no special miracle is worked in my behalf, that by none of those
lucky windfalls which sometimes come to fools, I am enriched; but it really
seems that strive as hard in whatever direction I may, the current still turns
against me. But I will not believe that it will be so always. At any rate I
will do the best I can, make the most of my opportunities, and for the rest
trust to God.
"Though I have a great deal of time on my hands, I do not think it is wholly
lost. I employ it in the development of either body or mind, in rowing or
swimming or in reading. Marriage has certainly benefitted me by giving a
more contented and earnest frame of mind and will help me to do my best in
'whatever station it pleases God to call me.' This is the only difference I
can perceive. Annie and I are so well matched in years and temperament that
there was no violent change in either. I feel no older, and my dear sister,
I love you as much as ever, and I believe, long to see you more. But I am
afraid it will be some time before we can get home, and in the meantime we
want to try and get one of you out here. The fare will be reduced in some
way or other before long, and when I once get on the train, it will
not take long to find the means. I wish you were all here, I think you would
like the country, or that we were all home, which would be better still.
However, we must hope on.
"Every day the telegraph is in working order it brings us the news of the
success of the armies of the Republic. I cannot help feeling regret that the
contest will be over and the victories won without my having taken the
slightest part in it. If I am East after the war is ended I will feel abashed
among its heroes. If I had been home I would have gone if I possibly could,
but here there was no chance unless one could pay his passage to New York,
for those who were raised here were merely to garrison posts and fight
Indians, though now a column is being pushed across the deserts to Arizona,
though it is very doubtful if they will see any fighting.
"What has become of Will Jones and Charley Walton? You have not told me of
them, but I suppose they are in the army.
"Times must be improving now at home. The worst of the war will soon be over
and then I think there will be a great revival. Considering the effects of the
floods and the northern gold fevers, everything is becoming quite brisk here.
"In future direct to the 'Union' office at Sacramento, and if I am not here my
letters will be forwarded immediately. I think, however, that I will stay
here for some time, and if I get a situation within a short time, I will be
sure to do so.
"For the present I must say good-bye. Give my love to all.
"Your affectionate brother,
"P.S. I have just received a call to go to work, so excuse my abruptness."
And so the current of affectionate communion passed between brother and
sister, when one afternoon, returning from an outing for his early evening
dinner, the young wife noticed that her husband was depressed and
preoccupied, that he ate little, and that when he spoke it was as with an
effort to be cheerful. He went off to his printer's work as usual, but when
he came home in the early morning she asked his trouble. He said that
letters from home bore heavy news which he had withheld as she was to be
alone during the long night hours. Now he was ready to tell her – his
Sister Jennie was dead! He handed her a letter from his mother, and unable
longer to control himself, broke into a flood of passionate tears. The
letter, which was unsigned, ran:
Philadelphia, August 7, 1862
"MY DEAR SON: Uncle Thomas has imparted to you
by this mail the dreadful, heart-crushing news. God, I hope, has given you
strength to bear it. After my first gush of agony, and I could think at all,
my cry went up for my boy, Lord, sustain him in this great trouble. Oh, if
he were here to witness the dying scene and weep with us it would not seem
so hard. And then, dear Annie, your image came up with inexpressible comfort
– a dear wife to sympathise with him, on whose breast he can pour out
his agonising cry, tears to mingle with his tears. O I blessed God that he
had a wife.
"It is nearly two weeks since we laid our darling Jennie in the grave, and we
miss her more and feel more desolate than we did at first. O every article,
and every spot, and everything in the house reminds us of her. O how we mourn
our precious child.... My heart would burst without tears.
"I suppose Uncle Thomas gave you particulars of her death and the impression
with her from the first that she would die. In her first conversation with me
(she had been in bed several days and seemed to be easier and more quiet, her
sickness at first being characterised by great restlessness and excessive
debility by turns) she said: 'Ma, I want to see Uncle Thomas, and Dr. Goddard
and Dr. Reed' She had just been telling Pop before I
came in the room the same thing, mourning over her coldness and hardness of
heart, and saying that she had not lived as she ought and that she was afraid
to die, that her Saviour would not receive her and that she would not go to
heaven. All day when I thought her easy and quiet she had been struggling and
praying. 'O Ma,' said she, 'how everything earthly sinks into utter
nothingness at the prospect of death!' I tried to comfort her (Pop could not
command his voice), told her neither we nor the doctor had a thought of her
dying, she would get well; but I said, 'Dear, Uncle Thomas cannot help your
peace of mind; no earthly arm can give you peace.' 'I know it,' she answered
quickly, 'but I would love to have him talk and pray with me.' 'Jesus alone,'
I again said, 'is all you want. Simply look to Him; cast yourself upon Him, in
all your sinfulness and weakness, as you did, my child, when you first came to
Him years ago. He is the same precious Saviour.' I repeated the hymn 'Rock of
Ages' slowly and with emphasis -" 'In my hand no price I bring, Simply to thy
cross I cling.'
'Yes, yes,' she whispered....
"O then the cruel, crushing blow came. I would not listen to any of them, not
until dinner time would I believe my child was going to die. No, no, no; not
my Jennie. Others might lose their children, but O no, this could not be. This
rebellious spirit lasted some time after she breathed her last, though after
the first outburst I was enabled to choke down the agony and appear calm
until it all was over. She died peacefully and gently, as an infant just
"Henry, how her mind developed! It was too much for her frail body. She read
too much – nearly every day at the library, besides bringing home
"A piece of hair for Annie."
After his wife had read the letter the young man, springing to his feet and
pacing the floor, as was his habit when mentally roused, protested that he
could not bring himself to believe that his dear sister was dead; and with the
manner of sudden conviction, said that there must be, there is, another life
– that the soul is immortal. But his words expressed his longing, rather
than his conviction. Immortality he now earnestly wished to believe in. But
the theology of his youth did not persuade him, and it was not until many
years afterwards when pursuing the great inquiry that produced "Progress and
Poverty" that he perceived the "grand simplicity and unspeakable harmony of
universal law," that beneficence and intelligence govern social laws, instead
of blind, clashing forces; and then faith from reason came and immortality
became a fixed belief.
 Six months later, (July 5, 1862) writing from
Sacramento to his Sister Caroline, Henry George said: "Both friends who were
at our marriage are now in the same fix – Ike Trump and Charlie
Coddington (of whom I have spoken in connection with Hoppel). Charlie ran away
with his girl, or rather Hoppel did it for him, and they had a queer old time.
When I was in San Francisco I met Hoppel with a big revolver buckled around
him and he told me the whole story. Ike's girl went up to Marysville last week
to be married to him, he writing to me to hurry her along; for if she lost a
day the new licence law would go into effect and he would have to pay $3 for
 Tom George, the brother next in age to Henry, had
been told that sitting in the air was possible. So following directions, he
procured one of the household wash tubs, filled it with water, placed a board
across it, stood on the board and then told a younger brother and sister to
draw the board away when he leaped up into the air. He leaped and they pulled
– and then, of course, down he came and took an unpremeditated bath.
 Drs. Goddard and Reed were clergymen.